Love your bahus, say telly moms-in-law

On the occasion of Mother's Day May 13, these ideal screen moms-in-law say as society has become modern, the relationship has also matured both in fiction and in reality.

Smita Bansal

Actress Smita Bansal aka Sumitra of 'Balika Vadhu', who is a pillar of strength for her on-screen daughter-in-law Anandi, says the older generation has become more supportive.

"The relationship of a mother-in-law with her daughter-in-law has changed over the years. Since most young women opt to work after marriage, the older generation understands the pressure and supports them," Smita said.

"I live in a joint family and my bonding with my mother-in-law is very strong. She knows I have to go out for work and she understands my hectic schedule. The relationship has now become more mature unlike earlier," she added.

Daily soaps have a big audience and positive and loving characters inspire people to be like them, says Supriya who as Shailja in 'Sasuraal Genda Phool' showed that being a mother-in-law is not just about bossing around, she can nurture the family bond and bind everyone together with her love and care.

"Mothers-in-law have been an integral part of daily soaps. But there have been shows in the past where they were portrayed in a negative light, so much so that it looked unrealistic. Now with the trend of supporting mothers-in-law, viewers can take inspiration from them," Supriya said.

Indrani set a new example on the small screen by playing Devyani in 'Maryada: Lekin Kab Tak'. Her character fights with her evil husband to protect her daughter-in-law.

"Now mothers-in-law are not ones who will boss around with their daughters-in-law and tell them to do all the household chores. They themselves go out and chill with their family. It is modernity that changed the relationship," Indrani said.

But she says this change is more visible in metros than small towns.
"People in cities are becoming modern, but this is not the case in small towns. In villages and small towns, the situation is still the same. That's when a television show is based in a village, the portrayal of the characters is not that modern," she further added.

The support of a mother-in-law is very important for a daughter-in-law, says actress Apara Mehta who is backing her onscreen daughter-in-law - played by actress Mona Singh -in 'Kya Hua Tera Vaada'.

"Earlier mothers-in-law were projected like Lalita Pawar (who frequently played negative roles in Bollywood films of yore) but that does not happen any more. Even the older generation is becoming considerate of the fact that one needs to change with time. And support from a mother-in-law is important as it helps a woman adjust in the family," Apara said.

Her character in the show "is supporting her daughter-in-law. Had I been in that situation in real life, I would always be on my bahu's side," she said.