'Ever since my guy changed jobs, he's a different person...'

Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
My boyfriend and I have been living in for over a year. Of late, he is a changed person. It could be down to stress as he recently changed jobs, but he seems to be removing his frustration on me. He's not the most affectionate person, but at least he did not holler at me like the way he does now. I have discussed it with him, but it makes him even more angry and he says I'm putting too much pressure on him. He feels it was a wrong move to change jobs.
- Reeva


Illustration/Amit Bandre

Dear Reeva,
It is clear that your guy is regretting his job change. You should let him be for the moment. If you say earlier he was not like this, it means that he is under pressure. He is venting his frustration at you because he can't do it on anyone else around. Sit down and talk things out. If he is regretting his move, there is nothing he can do about it. So he might as well make the most of it. Meanwhile, it is better that you stay clear from his path for a while. When things settle down he will come around.

Dear Diana,
Years ago, I used to see this guy at the bus-stop. He would keep looking at me. He was a handsome dude. I fell in love instantly. I felt he liked me too, but we never spoke. Years later now, I'm married, but I still think about the bus-stop man constantly. I wish I could find him.
- Sayesha

Dear Sayesha,
You are talking of the past. It is stuff that happened years ago. You have no clue where this guy is. If he would stare at you, chances are that he was a stalker. You should have been wary of him. If he was not , then what stopped you from striking a conversation with him during your staring sessions? Let him remain part of your fantasy world. Probably he, too, is married by now.