'He has planned a Christmas surprise...'

Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
I have known this guy for a while now. We have been hanging out together, but have not made any commitment to each other. Last week, he told me to accompany him for a Christmas eve bash. Further, he also told me he will be giving me a gift which I will never forget. He said he wants to make my Xmas special this year. He wants to surprise me. I have been telling him to drop hints, but he says that will spoil his plan. The problem is that my parents have no clue that I am going around with him for over a year. So if he pops the question, I do not know what to tell him. At the same time, I have been wondering that if he has got serious about me, I would hate to break his heart. Ever since he told me about the surprise, I am in a fix. It is causing me a lot of stress. What do I do?
- Natasha


Illustration/Uday Mohite

Dear Natasha,
First of all, you have no clue what he has in store for you. So why are you spoiling things for him and you? It is Christmas time, the season to be jolly. So do not be a dampner for him. Only after you know what the surprise element is, can you then react. It is clear that he is serious about you and cares for you. At the same time, at this stage you do not know what he has in mind. So just go with the flow. Let him do the planning. He wants to create an aura of mystery for you. This guy is genuine and is doing his best to make you happy during the festivities. If you have been hanging out with him for a while now, what stopped you from telling your family members about him? This is surprising and shows that you are not as serious about the relationship as he is. While he is spreading festive cheer, you need to introspect and realise where you see yourself. If he does pop the question, as you feel, you can always tell him to give you some time as he took you by surprise.