'He refuses to tell me what has gone wrong...'

Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
For the last three weeks, my guy has stopped talking to me. It was sudden and unexpected. I had no inkling of what was going on in his mind. One day, everything was fine between us and the next day, he stopped talking to me. He refuses to answer my calls or reply to my SMSes. I have been trying to find out what prompted this drastic change of behaviour, but he refuses to even listen to me. His silent treatment is killing me. I want him to tell me what has gone wrong and the reason why he is behaving in such an atrocious manner. Is there any hope for me? Why can't he tell me what made him suddenly cut off all ties with me? I am dejected and have been teary-eyed ever since. We were together for two years.
- Anupriya

Illustration/Uday Mohite

Dear Anupriya,
First of all, this guy owes you an explanation. He needs to tell you what is going on in his mind and what prompted him to behave in this manner. If he really cared for you and loved you, he would not have behaved in such an atrocious manner. It is obvious that there is something happening on his front. It could be another woman on his scene or he is bored of you. Either way, he needs to give you a reason. At the same time, do not be after him as he is playing hard to get. So, for the time being, let him be. He has moved on, but you are finding it difficult as you do not even know why he dumped you. If he had attributed a reason, it would be easier for you to seek closure. But this man is in no mood to talk, so the next time, you feel like crying, remember this man was not worthy of your love.