'I am married, but in love with another guy...'

Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
Seven months ago, I met this guy during an office outing. We got along instantly. I was attracted to him. He was the man for me, the guy I had dreamt about during my younger days. He was caring, a good listener and knew how to make me feel the most important person in his life. He swept me off my feet. The fact that I was married did not stop me from being with him. I enjoyed his company and my heart beat faster every time I saw him. We had a couple of brief physical encounters. Though I am often engulfed by guilt, I do not know how to let go off this guy. I fell for him at first sight. I wait for his phone calls and emails. I wait for him to plan our meetings. Is it possible to be married, but still be in love with another guy? My husband has no clue about what is going on in my life. I dread the day when he finds out. I have been married for almost a decade and have one child. My guy is also married with children, but says he is attracted to me. I don't know for how long I can continue with this situation.
- Anubha


Illustration/Amit Bandre

Dear Anubha,
Sometimes after many years of marriage, you come across that someone special. He is the one who lavishes you with attention. He lends you a listening ear. He treats you like you are his world. This person is making your life full of fun, passion and adventure. You have already gone too far with this guy. As you are deeply in love with him, you want to be with him. But how far are you willing to go? You cannot live such a life as you will have to choose - your husband or the other man. Right now your hubby is clueless about what you are doing behind his back, but one day he will and that will ruin your lives. The guy is also married, so he might disappear from your life when guilt engulfs him. Though tough, you will have to choose between the two.