'I don't know if I should meet him...'

Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
I met this guy at a Christmas bash held at Madh Island. I was with my pals at this event where there were several people. We got talking and exchanged numbers. He called me once and we exchanged pleasantries. He now called to say that he would like to meet me.

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I am a bit unsure about meeting him alone. At that time we were at a party with lots of people around singing and dancing. What I mean to say is that I hardly know him. May be he is interested in me - or may be he is not. But I don't know if I should agree to meet him. Or am I thinking too much? What should I do? He messages me every two days and I have been coming up with some excuse or the other. I am unsure what to do. At times I feel I should meet him and other times I feel I should not.
- Shriya

Dear Shriya,
First you need to decide whether you want to meet him or not. Make up your mind as you seem to be oscillating from one thought to another. You want to meet him and you also do not want to meet him. There is no harm in meeting him once. You can catch up with him at a shopping mall or at a coffee place where there are enough people around to put any apprehensions at rest. May be you two will click - may be you will not. So then take it forward accordingly.

If you want, you can have your pals accompanying you. If you still harbour fears, then tell him clearly that you are not interested. He will get the hint and stop calling you. As you are being evasive, he too is in doubt if you mean a yes or no. After meeting him and talking to him, things will be clearer and you two will get to know each other better. Meanwhile, if you know others at the bash, you can try and find out more details about him.