'I don't want to get hurt again in love...'

Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
I was heartbroken after my guy dumped me. He was married, but said that he would leave his wife for me. He said he was in an unhappy marriage. But I was a fool to believe him. He used me to satisfy his physical needs. One day he decided to cut off all ties with me. I was shattered. It has been years, but I am still grieving. At the same time, I don't want to spend my life alone, but I'm terrified of being hurt again.
- Shirin


Illustration/Amit Bandre

Dear Shirin,
This guy used you to satisfy his physical needs. If he really cared for you, he would not have treated you like this. You were blinded in love and did not realise it. This guy was a nincompoop and not worthy of your love. There is no point even remembering this guy or grieving for him as he does not deserve it. What he did to you was so wrong. You need to start anew and begin life anew. Just because he treated you like this does not mean that you will face heartache again. I am sure that you will find love again.

Dear Diana,
I've been married for six months. My hubby is extremely secretive with his mobile and it's never left anywhere. When he makes or takes calls he goes to another part of the house and closes the door. I'm beginning to believe that there is something fishy going on, but if I question anything he gets very defensive to the point of being abusive. Do you think I should just call it a day and walk away? Why does he behave like this?
- Aparna

Dear Aparna,
It is clear that he is up to something. You need to speak to your hubby and tell him that you find his behaviour odd. Depending on what he says, you certainly need to know why he walks away every time the phone rings. It may be his habit to get up and walk away. Either way you need to know as it is worrying you.