'I have fallen for my pal's sister...'

Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
My friendship with my best buddy is under threat because of my heart. I've fallen for his sister. I never felt this way before about her - especially when we were kids - but things have changed now. I feel strongly about her and I want to spend the rest of my life with her. I haven't even proposed to her yet although I'm sure that she won't reject me. But at the same time, I'm unsure how my friend will react to it.
- Sandesh


Illustration/Amit Bandre

Dear Sandesh,
You are assuming too many things, before even saying anything. You feel your pal will react - chances are that perhaps he may not. You may have developed feelings for your pal's sister, but does she feel the same for you? All these years you were a pal and now you want to be her lover. Before telling your buddy anything, find out whether she feels the same way as you do. Gauge her reaction, once you are sure that she is interested, then tell your buddy. As he knows you well, chances are that he might just be overjoyed that your friendship is being cemented in a relationship with his family.

Dear Diana,
I had an argument with my wife after we attended a party where I got drunk and misbehaved. The worst part is I don't even remember. To add to my troubles, she just left our house and hasn't returned yet. I tried calling her, but she doesn't pick up my call. I called her parents to check whether she's staying with them. Her parents are supporting her, saying that she's fed up of me. I just need a second chance.
- Vinay

Dear Vinay,
If you were in an inebriated state, she should realise that you said things when you were not in your senses. It appears that there is marital discord and she wants a way out. If you want a second chance, make amends and apologise to her. If she is not in a mood to listen, it will be tough, but still make an effort to woo her again.