'I keep checking his relationship status...'

Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
I am in love with this guy, but unsure about his feelings for me. We hang out together in a group. I find him amazing and adorable. He is something special. Last week, he set his Facebook relationship status from 'single' to 'in a relationship'. I asked him, "Why didn't you say who you are with on Facebook?" and he replied "Because of relatives" and then he said "Tag yourself and 'like' it?" And I only said "LOL". Should I consider it as a hint that he likes me? When I asked him again he blushed. Later on he was evasive and changed his status to single. He is 25 and I am also of the same age. A common friend, however, told me that I messed it up by my constant questioning. Now I do not know what to do and continuously check his relationship status. He even avoids having a conversation with me now.
- Kiara


Illustration/Amit Bandre

Dear Kiara,
Just let him be for a while. He may have had feelings for you and did not know how to express it so took recourse to Facebook. But you embarrassed him by your constant questioning. You irritated him to the point that he deleted the status. You are not teenagers but 25 years old and mature enough to handle the situation. You are still hanging out in the group with him, so now act normal. Your friend was right in telling you that your constant nagging messed up your chances with him. Do not strike any conversation on this topic again. Do not even comment about his relationship status the next time he changes it. He is well aware that you are constantly monitoring his Facebook status. If he really cares for you and loves you, he will hopefully forget this episode. Just be his friend for now, let him make another move now.