'I'm fed up of my sister's intrusion...'

Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
I am in a relationship with my sister's boyfriend's best friend. But whenever he and I go out, my sister and her boyfriend come along. She tells me as she is older, she has to be around. While her guy feels he has to be around his buddy. Initially, when we were getting to know each other, we did not mind. But now their presence is irritating. I don't know what to do. My sister and her guy keep interfering and are always keeping tabs on us.
- Neha



Illustration/Amit Bandre

Dear Neha,
You are caught in a situation where you can't offend anyone. On one side is your sister and the other side her guy and his best pal. You initially made it a habit to hang out together, but now their presence is getting on your nerves. You and your guy need to sit down and talk things out with your sister. Tell her how you feel about it and that you think it is intrusion. May be she is trying to be protective and does not realise your need for privacy. Meanwhile, your guy can tell your sister's guy what he feels. As he is a close buddy, he should understand.

Dear Diana,
I'm 26 and in my first serious relationship. He is an easy-going guy, but sex is always on his mind. According to me, he is overdoing it. Whenever I am with him, he can't get his hands off me. It would be nice to do other things like hanging out together or watch a movie or anything else. My guy just doesn't pay attention to what I'm saying. When I tell him no, he sulks or gets annoyed.
- Amaira

Dear Amaira,
You have to ask yourself the question whether this guy really loves you or is with you to satisfy his physical urges. If he loves you, he will respect your wish and stop when you think he is going overboard. A guy who does not respect you is not worthy of your love.