'My ex is back in my life...'

Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
I was in a relationship with an office colleague. We were together for two years and broke off due to ego issues. Now I have got married and moved on. Last week, out of the blue, my ex called me. He congratulated me and wished me marital happiness. It was a short conversation. But ever since that phone call, I could not get him out of my head. Even though I am newly married and my guy is great, I felt like meeting him again. In one of those weak moments, I called him and we agreed to meet. He suggested we should seek closure, so that it would be all over. But on meeting him, he confessed he still had feelings for me. We were extremely comfortable. It made me happy and excited. He now calls me several times in a day. He tells me he has always loved me and cannot imagine being away from me now. Now I am scared that my hubby will find out. My ex is refusing to let go now. After me, he was in a relationship with another woman, but things did not last.
- Ananya


Illustration/Amit Bandre

Dear Ananya,
You are playing with fire and be prepared to get scorched. You have just got married and seem to be hellbent on ruining your marital life. You broke off with your ex due to ego issues. It was the past so you should have let it remain there. He called you to congratulate you on your marriage, that was fine, but you went a step further and then there was no looking back. If he really cared for you, why did he not make amends when you were still single? Why did he not call you then. Now that he has broken off from the other woman in his life, he is looking for a romp yet again with you. He is using you at his own convenience. For a moment, ponder what will happen if your hubby finds out. You are cheating on him. You say he is a nice guy, so why are you messing up things? You will have to choose and sooner the better.