'My ex wants us to get back together...'

Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
I'm 29 and my ex-boyfriend is 28. We were together for seven years before we called it quits. We had no contact with each other after we broke up. To be honest, I'm still in love with him. To add to my dilemma, in one of those weak moments, he sent me a message last night saying he wants us to be a couple again.
- Farida


Illustration/Amit Bandre

Dear Farida,
It appears that you broke off in haste and now regretting at leisure. The fact is that both of you didn't move on in life. Whatever the reasons were for the break up, you two took a decision and now you want to be back. So it is up to you. If you want to be together, it is your decision. Give it another shot and start anew. Make be it will make your relationship stronger and better.

Dear Diana,
I'm 28 and in the last month of my doctoral thesis. I need to concentrate on my work, but I'm intensely distracted by my live-in boyfriend's reluctance to find a job. He stopped working two months ago, and is now only applying for his ideal job. I find it very difficult to do my research writings in public places such as the library, but staying at home means constant friction because I feel he is approaching the job hunt in the wrong way.
- Sunaina

Dear Sunaina,
You are more concerned than him about his job. Your guy appears to be wayward and happy-go-lucky, so he is not taking the job hunt seriously. Instead of fretting over his attitude, concentrate on your research work. Also, you need to knock sense into his head that you need money to survive. If he goes slow on his job hunt, soon you will run out of cash.