'My guy did not tell me he had two cell phones...'

Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
When I called my boyfriend on his cell phone, I was surprised to hear his sister's voice. She told me that the number was for everyone in general while he has another number for those close and dear to him. I was taken aback as I had no clue that he had another cell phone number. We have been together for three months. Why did he hide his second cell phone number from me? Should I text him on that number or was it a sign not to text him?
- Akhila


Illustration/Amit Bandre

Dear Akhila,
He hid an important aspect from you, so it is now up to you whether you want to continue in the relationship. It does appear that the very fact that he made his sister answer his call is a clear indication that he was dropping a hint. You need to ask him why he hid it from you. Depending on his reply decide whether you want to continue in the relationship.

Dear Diana,
My girlfriend and I are both 25. Ever since I bumped into her ex guy, I can't seem to get over it. I know it's such a petty thing, but I keep worrying if she will be with him again. Also, I can't accept the fact that there was someone else in her life earlier. She was clear-cut when we started going out. She made it a point to tell me about her past and cleared all the doubts I had and asked her. But still I am feeling that she might go back to her ex. I don't know why such thoughts are creeping into my head.
- Atul

Dear Atul,
You are an insecure person. Your girlfriend has been honest and forthright about her past. You are speculating and unnecessarily worrying about it. You just happened to bump into her ex boyfriend. Now how does that mean she will go back to him? Banish such illogical thoughts from your head. Instead, work on building the relationship.