'My guy is addicted to porn...

Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
I'm 26 and in a live-in relationship with a 32-year-old guy. He loves me a lot, but I don't understand his obsession with porn. I tried concluding that I wasn't enough to satisfy him in bed. So I asked him about it, but he laughed and said it is a guy thing. He then told me he will not watch it. He's clearly lying.
- Priscilla


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Dear Priscilla,
You may find it gross, but he sure does get a kick watching the stuff. He may tell you that it is a guy thing and that all men watch it, but if he is addicted to it, there should be a cause for concern. At the same time, you need to tell him how you feel about it. He should know that you find it disgusting and he needs to respect your views. He may tell you that he will not watch it, but that will not stop him from viewing it in your absence. So you either ignore his habit or tell him to go slow on the front. If he is mature enough, he will respect your feelings.

Dear Diana,
I had been having an affair with a work colleague for four months. We wanted to be together even though he had a girlfriend. His girl somehow found out that we've been messaging each other. All hell broke loose. As a consequence, he does not talk to me anymore. It's like I don't exist. So much so he doesn't even acknowledge my hello in office and leaves me feel insulted in front of other colleagues. I feel heartbroken, insulted and used.
- Rizaana

Dear Rizaana,
The guy certainly owed you an explanation before just cutting off all ties with you. He did not have the courage to tell you what exactly transpired that made his girlfriend react. He was well aware what was going on, but did not tell his girlfriend that he wanted to move on. He took you for a ride, be wary before you befriend someone next time.