'My hubby is quite immature...'

Dear Diana,
I'm married for over a year now. I love my husband a lot, but I feel things aren't right anymore. I'm 25 and feel that he is quite immature.

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He's irresponsible too. Now that the initial excitement has worn off, he can't seem to get me going. I've tried helping him by telling him and showing him what I like, but he just can't seem to understand and do it.
- Saundarya

Dear Saundarya,
It looks like you got married thinking that he was the ideal life partner. He was the man of your dreams. You thought you made the right choice. Now that the romance has gone out of the window, the reality is sinking in. You may be mature beyond your years, but your hubby may not exactly be like you. If you find him childish, he is being himself. That is the way he is. Perhaps when you were in love you did not realise it. You can tell him how you feel and you two can work towards a path that you can tread together without getting on each others' nerves.

Dear Diana,
I have a female friend and I've known her for more than 15 years. We are both married with kids. I've always had a thing for her. Last weekend, we spent time together and ended up having sex. We were both drunk, and that probably played a big part. Ever since that night I am feeling guilty, but she is behaving as if nothing happened.
- Aurindham

Dear Aurindham,
Things may have happened at the spur of the moment and you two got carried away. Remember it amounts to an extramarital relation for you and her. She is behaving as if nothing happened because she feels it is best that way. She feels guilty too, so it is best to forget it and not to find yourself in the situation again.