'My sister-in-law is a pain...'

Dear Diana,
My sister-in-law is ruining my family. She has been married to my brother for a year now and whenever she is around, she makes everyone uncomfortable. She is evasive, stand-offish and selfish. I can't bear to see my brother end up with someone so self-centred. I'm single and never been in a relationship, but it tells me that love is indeed blind, isn't it? I can't believe my brother fell for such a woman.
- Geetika

Illustration/Amit Bandre

Dear Geetika,
As they say love is blind and the lovers can't see. May be you feel this way about her, but your brother does not. He likes her for what she is. If you voice your opinion, you are likely to be picked upon. The very fact that the others are keeping quiet about it is clear that they don't want to mess with her. It is better to steer clear from her path and strike a conversation only when necessary. Your brother is not going to leave her, so there is no sense creating marital discord.

Dear Diana,
I'm a 26-year-old guy in love with a 30-year-old woman. She's afraid that our age gap may become an issue. Her anxieties are making me think twice about the relationship now. I tell her a four year age difference does not matter, but she is adamant. She thinks she will end up looking old and wrinkled while I will appear young and dashing. How do I pacify her? She is going overboard with the age difference.
- Akhil

Dear Akhil,
It is only a four-year difference. So why is she making a big deal about it? There are couples who have an age gap of 15 to 20 years between them. There is no need to worry. Remember no one will even know about the age difference until you tell them. Also, you two are just four years apart, so there won't be a major difference when you'll grow older. Tell her to rest her case and plan marriage.