'I am in love with a married woman'

The trouble is I am going abroad in three months' time for better job prospects. My parents are already looking for a girl within our community for me to get married. What should I do? Should I just start afresh or should we continue being secret lovers?
- Abidal

Illustration/ Amit Bandre

Dear Abidal,
Unless you are thinking of a future with this woman, there is no point continuing in this relationship. Especially if you are going to relocate, will you be able to continue in a long distance relationship? Both of you may have done things at the heat of the moment and got carried away with one thing leading to another. Is she ready to divorce her husband and move in with you? Are you willing to be a father figure to her kid? Ponder about these aspects. As for your secret lovers plan, remember one fine day you will be caught. She is indulging in an extramarital affair and you will be termed a housebreaker.

Diana will solve it!
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