'I fantasise about my wife having affairs with other men'

Heads turn wherever she goes. Instead of getting angry or jealous, I actually enjoy it. For the last two months, I have started fantasising about my wife having affairs with other men - work colleagues, relatives and neighbours, etc. I imagine situations where they are seducing her. I have not told her about it and wonder how she will react. But at the same time these fantasies are worrying me.
- Jerry

Illustration/ Amit Bandre

Dear Jerry,
You better be worried alright. No sane person will think and allow his wife to get physically with other guys. Your fantasy is most likely from wanting to see her be sexually pleasured and it may also come from feeling secure enough in your relationship to allow it to happen. In any case let your fantasy remain a fantasty. The sooner you can overcome it, the better. Imagining is one thing and actually doing it is another. I am sure that when you see your woman getting close and friendly with a guy, you will be seeing red.

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