'I have a fetish for my girlfriend's ears'

We love each other a lot. In fact, we don't even argue or fight like other couples. I'm very attracted to her ears and keep rubbing my fingers against them whenever we are alone. Initially, she thought it was cute but now she's concerned about my fetish. The other day, she even chided me and asked me to grow up. Am I in trouble?
- Maran

Illustration/ Amit Bandre

Dear Maran,
For many people nibbling earlobes is a real turn-on. Many guys have weird fetishes and you seem to dig your girl's ears. If you both are okay with it, then there's nothing to worry about. But it looks like you are overdoing it, the reason why your girl is chiding you. I suggest go slow and don't lunge for her ear every time you are with her. May be she is unaware of such fetishes, so you need to tell her about it. If she is really uncomfortable with it, you need to stop doing it.

Diana will solve it!
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