'I'm married but attracted to a colleague'

Everything was going okay on the work and personal front till I fell in love with a colleague of mine. Even though she was there on the scene earlier, we barely used to talk. One fine day I had to interact with her for some work and then we got talking. We hit it off so well and I fell for her. She would keep telling me to be her best friend but I desired her. Now I have changed jobs but still can't forget her. What do I do?
- Shyam

Illustration/ Amit Bandre

Dear Shyam,
A change of job will certainly help you in forgetting her. As they say ‘out of sight, out of mind'. You barely knew this girl in office earlier but as soon as you got to know her, you got going. Guess you were smitten by her and one thing led to another. It is clear that she desires friendship but you don't see her as a buddy but as a lover. Remember you are married and your wife doesn't even know what you are up to. It is best to cut yourself off from this girl. You have to make an effort and forget her if you want to remain in your marriage.

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