'I'm stuck in a passive relationship'

But no matter how hard I try, I can't get out of it because I like the warmth of being in a relationship. This is my third affair in six years and I don't want to jinx it by breaking up with him. At the same time, I don't believe I'm very happy in it either. Should I just call it quits and move on in life. What if I end up being single and lonely all over again?
- Ruby

Illustration/ Amit Bandre

Dear Ruby,
Good heavens! You need to declutter your mind. It appears that you are a serial dater. Instead of believing that your guy is a psycho, look inwards. You are the insecure psycho. You want him and also don't want him. Make up your mind what kind of guy you need. You have already had a hattrick of affairs, how many more are you looking at. If you think you are in a boring relationship, why don't you spruce it up? Instead of whining and cribbing, think positive. I am sure it is your attitude that is causing all the mess in your life. You are radiating too much of negativity which will only harm you and no one else.u00a0

Diana will solve it!
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