'My folks are worried that I'm 30 and single'

The thing is I don't want to settle down but my loved ones are worried that I'm losing time. I don't see the reasons why a woman should get married and have a family before 30! Can't one choose her time to enjoy singledom a bit longer? I must admit that I'm commitment-phobic but then I haven't found a guy who is good enough to get tied down to. Nevertheless, my family is pressurising me to get married. They say I won't get good guys once I grow older by a few more years but I'm happy being single.
Shashma

Illustration/Amit Bandre

Dear Shashma,
I can understand your dilemma. You want to marry the right person. At 30, you have become set in your ways. You like things done in a certain way. You need to find someone with common interests to share and grow with. Marriage is about give and take. If you are not willing to compromise then marriage is not for you. At the same time, I can understand your family's anxiety. Also, if you plan to have kids, it is medically advised to have one before the age of 30. So they may be expressing concerns about your biological clock ticking too. So explain to them your situation and there is no harm at allowing themselves to do a bit of groom hunting. You never know when Cupid will strike.u00a0