'My hubby behaves rudely with me'

It hurts to see that he becomes angry for silly things. I wonder if it his nature or he is doing such things intentionally. Ours was an arranged marriage and I'm beginning to like him. But he never expresses his feelings and when I ask him the reason, he blames everything on his job. Is he not happy with me?
- Baani

Illustration/ Amit Bandre

Dear Baani,
First of all, don't jump to conclusions. May be your husband is having a tough time at work. You say that at times he can be very nice and sometimes rude. It appears that it is his nature. Many people can swing to extremes. You feel unloved because your husband is too busy at work. Talk to him when he is in a good mood and tell him honestly how you feel. As it is an arranged marriage, it takes time to know each other. It will take a while for the two of you to get comfortable with each other. Your husband doesn't understand, you might want to opt for marriage counselling.u00a0

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