06 May,2011 08:05 AM IST | | Diana
Dear Diana,
My boyfriend and I have been together four years and I have cheated on him several times. I recently caught up with someone from my past. I was seeing this guy for a little over a month but decided that I wanted to make things work with my boyfriend so ended it. Now I can't stop thinking about the other guy and want to get back in touch. Sometimes, I feel that my boyfriend isn't 'the one' since I've cheated on him so often but I feel he's the only one who offers any sort of future security. I'm so confused! I don't know what to do.
Dear Friend,
You say you've cheated on him several times as if it is something to be proud of. It isn't. It's not something you brag about. If he hasn't caught on yet, it either because he's blind or he's too much in love with you to notice. You've always been this way and see no wrong in the decisions you make. The only reason you feel any obligation to your boyfriend is because he has stood by you despite your infidelities. Ask yourself who you want to end up with, who will make you happier. You will get your answer.
Will I lose virginity if I get 'fingered'?
Dear Diana,
I'm a 17-year-old girl. I'd like to know if I would lose my virginity if my boyfriend inserted his fingers into my private area.
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
I hope you know what you're doing here. While I feel you're still young and should get intimate out of choice and not compulsion or pressure, it's your choice. To answer your question... your hymen might get broken and some think this as a sign of loss of virginity. Normally, one associates loss of virginity with sexual intercourse.
I want my ex out of my office... and life
Dear Diana,
I caught my gold-digging ex (we work in the same office) scr''ing with another person in the office this morning. I caught them and now have incriminating evidence against her and I would love to get her kicked out of the office for good... because she is really intellectually ignorant and can't do anything right. Hope she's out of my sight and mind and life forever! What would you do?
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
And what would you accomplish? You would not change the past, you would not cancel the harm she has done to you , and you would not get back the "gold" she has dug. You'd kick her out of your workplace, but as for kicking her out of your mind and life, you could've should've done it anytime, wherever she is, because it's only up to you chosing how much space you want to give her in your thoughts. It seems to me that she must still have quite a bit of it, since you are plotting such an extreme retaliation, and carrying it through will only confirm and reinforce the hold she has on you.
