Distance has made his heart grow fonder, but...

Dear Diana,
I am a 20-year-old girl in love with this guy for the past one-and-a-half years. I have confessed myu00a0 feelings to him many times. He loves me too but he never expresses it properly. He used to ignore me as he is very much ambitious and gives importance only to his work.

I lost my last job because of him. I couldn't go to work for three days, because we were supposed to meet and in the end, he didn't turn up. But he is not aware of this. All I've ever wanted is a guy who loves me truly. I talked to him about our relationship, but he didn't give me proper answers.

So I told him to concentrate on his career and once he is settled, we can think about our relationship. I stopped all contact with him and even tried to forget him, but in vain. Now he's got a good job in a different city. Two days back, he confessed his feelings for me and revealed that he misses me a lot.

Things are going better than ever before. I had waited for this day for a long time. I talked to my friends, and they say he fooled me then and is doing so again, that I deserve better. I don't want to lose him, but I doubt if he is serious about me.

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
Trust your instinct. If you feel that he isn't serious, he probably isn't. Also, this guy has never confessed his feelings for you, until now. Distance makes people do strange things. I am not sure if he misses you, or is simply feeling lonely in a new city, in a new job and wants the comfort of something familiaru00a0-- you and your adoration for him. Listen to your friends.

They are telling you the truth as they are looking out for you. It wouldn't be practical for you to drop everything and rush to him. When you gave everything to the relationship, it didn't mean anything to him. He just misses the attention. If you go back, he will again start ignoring you and concentrating on his work. Be wise and stay disconnected from him.

Should I give him a second chance?

Dear Diana,
My boyfriend of eight months recently found out that I earn more than he does. He got angry and broke it off. I still love him and he did call and apologise two weeks later, but I don't know if I should get back with him.

Sunita

Dear Sunita,
That's quite a childish reason to break up with someone. But he realised he's madeu00a0 a mistake and come back. Hopefully the next time he will think it over before reacting so strongly. Make him sweat a bit, so that he knows it won't be easy if it happens again, but give him a second chance.

She is grieving, but doesn't let me help...

Dear Diana,
My girlfriend's grandfather is in the last stages of a terminal illness. She spends all of her free time with him. I understand that and totally support her in this, but she is also slowly withdrawing from me. I know she is in deep sorrow, but she is not sharing it with me.

I want to tell her she can talk to me, that I want to be there for her. I want to support her, share her sorrow, but she doesn't let me and I don't know how to make her. What do I do? How do I tell her she can trust me to stay with her through this traumatic time?

Akash

Dear Akash,
Grief is not always shared by talking about it. Maybe she doesn't want to think about it at all. So don't push her. Try to distract her, if you can. Bring her some music, or a book to read. Make sure she is eating well and taking care of her health. Call, text or visit her when you can.

Make sure you are not intruding. Just support her silently. Let her know that you are around, if she needs you. Dealing with someone with a terminal illness is very painful and she is probably just living each day at a time.