Finally took a pic and now I think I look ugly in it

Dear Diana,
I am suffering from very low self esteem and hate having my pictures taken. I look horrible in photos and it always makes me wonder if maybe I'm actually as horrible looking as my photos. Iu00a0 get nervous and feel awkward whenever a camera comes out.

I have always managed to talk myself out of having my picture taken. Lately, I decided tou00a0 overcome this fear and just have my picture taken. I went on a holiday with some friends, and got a pictureu00a0 of me and my boyfriend taken. Now I feel like I looku00a0 ugly and different in it.

This has now made me feel very insecure about myself and its started to affect my relationship with my boyfriend. Suddenly I feel like I am not good enough for him. I don't want to feel like this anymore because it is making me feel really depressed. Please help.

Reena

Dear Reena,
I suggest meeting a trained counsellor to sort out your low self-esteem issues. Understand that a camera isn't your enemy. The more you think of yourself as the problem, the more you're working towards making that reality. You are only serving to make yourself miserable. That said, the answer is within you. Keep telling yourself that you are beautifulu00a0-- in a picture or out of itu00a0-- and you're just as likely to believe it as when you keep telling yourself you look ugly. All you need is a change in mindset, which can only be effected if you want it to happen.

He kissed me... now he won't talk to me!

Dear Diana,
Last night I went out with a bunch of friends. At the end off the night one of the boys I like, just kissed me for no reason and I felt really happy. Now he won't talk to me. Have I done something wrong?

Freida

Dear Freida,
There's nothing wrong. I just think he's probably embarrassed that he made a move on you. A lot of people behave irrationally after gettingu00a0 a little high. I think it will help if you act normally around him. Don't treat him any different from what you did earlier. Pretend as though nothing happened, and he will soon be back to normal.

Falling for my friend's husband

Dear Diana,
Over the past few years I have come to have very strong feelings for one of my dear friend's husbands. I am also married. As much as I try to move past these feelings, I cannot. I know to feel this way is morally wrong. I just don't know how to stop.

I think these feelings started with the extra attention he would frequently show me. When I confronted him with my feelings he acted flattered, and continued to flirt. Although he says that he would never do anything to risk his marriage. I don't want that for him or myself either. It seems though that these feelings will never fade. Should I try to shut him out of my life all together? Please help.

Name withheld on request

Dear Friend,
Just because you're feeling a strong physical/chemical attraction to your friend's husband, doesn't mean you have to do something about it. You are NOT in love with these crushes. You are in LUST. Stop feeding that lust with your little fantasies My advice to you is to stop spending time with the crush, re-commit to your relationship (you once felt that rush for the man you're currently with at one time.) If you are truly unhappy, you should leave the marriage and find some who is completely emotionally avaible and SINGLE. Learn to be happy on your own two feet, and you will find someone who can truly be your partner.