Girlfriend wants me to sever ties with my best friend

Dear Diana,
I've been in a relationship with this girl I met through a social networking site, for two years now. We love each other very much. The only problem is she doesn't like my best friend, a married woman. My best friend and I work at the same office and spend most of the time with each other.

She doesn't like my girlfriend either and thinks that my GF doesn't take care of me and she also thinks she is not the perfect girl for me. Whenever I ask my friend about the problem, she always says that my girlfriend is using me.

My girlfriend fights with me whenever she finds my best friend around me and a few times, we've even come close to breaking up. I even told my firlfriend that my best friend is like my sis and there is nothing she need be worried about. Despite several attempts they've never changed their opinions about each other. Thing is my best friend has been there for me whenever I have needed her and so, I don't want to hurt her. But I am really pissed off with their behaviour. What should I do?

Suhas

Dear Suhas,
It's but natural that she would be jealous of your best friend spending such a lot of time with you. She may even see her as a threat though your friend may be happily married, even to the extent of harbouring unsavoury suspicions about you and her.

You will have to learn to look past that andtry and stay out of the argument for as long as it takes. If you do want to try your hand at being a mediator, you will have to appeal to their better nature and hope that they see sense. Also, since they can't get along, you'd best decide who you're willing to anger by sticking to your guns. It is going to boil down to that.

Wanna give love a chance!

Dear Diana,
I'm in a situation where I like a guy but we don't know each other that well. Due to time constraints, we don't meet that regularly. I'm 19 and want to concentrate on my career. But I'm confused as to what I should choose but would like to give love a chance as well.

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
You're young. You have the luxury of deciding what it is you want more strongly. A career-driven life or the thrill of love early on. I guess the safe answer would be, get to know this person through means that wouldn't require you to be face-to-face. You save time meeting up that way. Meet when you do have the time. That way, you can balance out your priorities.

She doesn't wanna be with me?

Dear Diana,
I am 23 and have been in a relationship with a gal for the last six years. Her parents know this but are against me. An arranged marriage is anyway out of the question. We did plan on a court marriage on the sly last year but she backed out without offering a reason. Three months after that, we began to meet again. Since that time, her behaviour has changed. She tries to avoid me and talk rudely to me. I think she feels she doesn't love me anymore and that she doesn't love me.

Venky

Dear Venky,
It would seem that she really has no interest in pursuing this relationship any further. And this could possibly be, because she'd rather not infuriate her family. Since both of you are of age, they wouldn't be able to stop the court marriage. Her backing out should've told you a lot about where her sentiments lay. If her behaviour towards you has changed, it's only because her priorities in life have. But the only way you'll know that for sure is if you ask her to tell you that in no uncertain terms. That is the only way you will get some sort of closure on this.