He's playing hard to get. Hope this am not one-sided...

Dear Diana,
I am gay. Around six months back, I met another gay guy through some mutual friends. A few weeks later, we met again and exchanged phone numbers and email addresses. Then we met again on a date at my place before Diwali. We had a great time and liked each other very much.

The next day, we exchanged texts on how we had a great time. But then both of us went to our respective hometowns for the festival and lost contact.

I missed him and texted him during Diwali and he responded. When we returned to our homes, I again texted him and he responded. I am worried because he is never the one to text or call first. He texts only in response to mine. I am really falling for him.

I don't know whether he too feels about me in the same way, but I am unable to control my emotions. I don't want to get into a one-sided affair as it becomes very painful later. How do I know if he is interested in me too? He is a nice guy. I would like to be friends with him at least, if not more.

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
My understanding of a relationship is this. If you want to be with someone, can't spend a moment apart from them, etc, your every action will reflect that.

And while you feel that way, it needn't be the case with him. Maybe he is playing hard to get, maybe he doesn't see this going anywhere and has decided not to lead you on and is being polite by simply respnding to your messages and calls.

It wouldn't hurt to tell him how you feel about him. If he feels the same way, you can work things up from there. If not, you can continue being friends with this guy and try wooing him after a while.u00a0 Maybe he will see how keen you are on being with him and decide to give it a shot.

Can't give up either!

Dear Diana,
I am 28 years old. I have been married for the past two years and have one child. I am in a relationship with another girl. My wife and my girlfriend know about each other. I want to marry this girl, but I don't want to lose my wife and child. I am very confused. What should I do?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
I suspect one is wary of the other and neither your girlfriend nor your wife have anyu00a0 intention of sharing your love. Yet, given theu00a0 circumstances, they're putting up with your stupidity.

You aren't being fair to either woman. You might want to marry your girlfriend but how do you expect to explain the situation to your child a few years down the line? End this before it gets messy.u00a0

It might have been a mistake...

Dear Diana,
I am a 22-year-old girl in love with my best friend. We've been together for more then two years. I have not told him about my feelings for him, because I don't want to spoil our friendship.

I don't know if he loves me or not. Sometimes, he is very caring while other times, he doesn't even listen to me. We got intimate recently and I think that might have been a mistake. I love him and can't live without him. What do I do?

AA

Dear Friend,
Given how unpredictably (ironically) your closest friends can react if your feelings for them change (from simply being friendly to falling in love), you have to understand that guys and girls process advances towards each other quite differently.

While your being intimate with him signify your feelings of sexual attraction for him, it doesn't reveal to him if you love him unless you mentioned it. Don't expect him to get it unless you've tried to display your feelings for him. Now, he might just take you for being the easy type, which isn't true. Or if you're lucky, he'll pop the question. Keep your fingers crossed.