He stares at me all the time, what's on his mind?

Dear Diana,
There is this guy in my office. Whenever he is around me, he keeps looking at me. When he comes to meet his team members who sit near my desk, he looks at me. When his team meets at the cabin near my desk, he takes a seat at that angle from where he can look at me.

When we leave work in the evening, he deliberately leaves from the door I am leaving instead of the exit near his own desk. He is married with a child and I am engaged. I have got so used to it now, that if he isn't around I look for him. He is a nice guy and I would like him to be my best friend (nothing more as I love my boyfriend a lot and will be married in a few months), but I don't know how to approach him.

I sent him texts and he replied too, but he would never be the first one to text. He also refuses to reply once he has reached home. He claims he becomes very busy then. I want to know what he feels for me.

Once I texted him that I need to tell you something, but he said he is almost home so he will talk tomorrow, but he never asked me what it was after that. I have told my fianc ufffd but he just teases me. I am desperate to know what's on his mind. How can I find out?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
This guy sounds like a stalker to me. Don't get so obsessed with knowing what's on his mind, because his behaviour is definitely not normal. It is quite possible that this guy is looking for a little sexual fun outside his marriage and he is feeling you out for it.

He doesn't care about what you feelu00a0-- if he had been really concerned about you like a true friend, he would have asked you after you texted him. Instead, he first baited you with his stares and now that he's got you hooked to thinking about him, he is ignoring you so that you will chase him.

And remember, a guy who behaves the way he is behaving (especially a married guy) is definitely not a nice guy and it will be safer if you don't try to be his friend. Don't give him any encouragement and stop messaging him or calling him immediately. It's good that you told your fianc ufffd about this, but I wish he had taken it more seriously.u00a0

Studies or love? What to choose?

Dear Diana,
My best friend and I are in love. We want to see where the relationship takes us, but we are both studying engineering and we know getting into a relationship will definitely affect our studies. What do we do?

Irene

Dear Irene,
Relationships need to be nurtured and it's tough to do that when you are busy with your studies. But so long as both of you are secure in your feelings for each other, understand that dates might have to be broken, and are willing to take the risk, go ahead.

In love with a married man...

Dear Diana,
I am 21 and am dating this guy who is 26. I love him very much and can't stay without him for one second too and he loves me too. Unfortunately, he is already married. We want to get married but I wonder if that it will be the correct step to take and if I really want to live with him. Compared to other guys, he is a good guy. What do I do?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
When you have doubts, say no. Getting involved with a married man was a risk and it will be best if you step back soon. Don't take any serious step till he officially files for divorce. He may promise you that he will divorce his wife soon, at the right time, he doesn't know how to tell her... don't accept any of those reasons.

You both love each other a lot, but for future peace, wait till the divorce is granted, otherwise, you can get stuck in the battle between him and his wife.