22 March,2011 08:48 AM IST | | Diana
Dear Diana,
My ex-girlfriend had sex at a party with a guy she barely knew. She did so while in a drunken state after we broke up recently. I heard about this and this hurt me to no end.u00a0 I started dating another girl. When my ex and I met recently, she said she wanted to get back together. I told her no. I did the right thing, didn't I?u00a0
Dear Friend,
If you ever see yourself trusting her again, it will be subject to the condition that she never drinks again. Obviously, because she can't be responsible for her actions in that state. However, you have no control over such matters. And the last resort in such situations is to call for time apart. You've done the right thing. You're human. You can get get hurt, even if she intentionally cheated on you. If you think of getting back together with her, it should be something you truly want.
Am I lean because I masturbate?
Dear Diana,
I am a 24-year-old guy and am very lean. I am also addicted to masturbation. I understand that when we masturbate and ejaculate, we lost several calories and that it takes a lot of time to pile back on. Does that mean I am lean because I masturbate regularly?
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
Any sexual activity, by its nature exterts energy and therefore results in burning of calories. Masturbation is the least strenous of those activities. Also, ejaculation doesn't result in loss of calories. So, to answer your question, I don't think you are lean because you masturbate regularly.
I can't choose between my parents and my love
Dear Diana,
I'm 23, have been in love with a guy for nine years. Needless to say, we've been together since our school days. We're very much in love. Trouble is, my parents are against getting us married as he belongs to other caste. They told me if I wanted to marry my guy, I'd have to leave my home and them. My parents are my weakness, Diana! I can't leave them, neither can I leave my love. How can I get both the things I want?
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
You knew it was going to come down to this. You've probably known this for the last five years. Most parents in India have certain reservations to inter-caste marriages and while some will simply cut ties, others choose more extreme means to end the romances. That's a sad fact. What matters is this? You can either choose to give in to your parents or to be with a person you consider your soul mate. Finding the middle path is difficult, not impossible. But it will take time to convince them. You will have to make sure they are at least willing to meet your guy. Take things slowly after that. Let them get to know that he will keep you the happiest.
