I chose my pal over my girlfriend

But then she had a fight with my girlfriend and I had to choose between the two. I didn't know how to go about it and took my friend's side in the drama that followed. The reason behind this was simple - I knew her longer. Now my girlfriend does not even talk to me because of this. I really like her but I don't know how to go about it now. I am in an emotional mess.
- Anish

Illustration/ Satish Acharya

Dear Anish,
I can understand your predicament. Choosing between a pal and girlfriend is no easy task. For the moment it is better to keep out of the mess. Right now things are hot and any thing you say will go against you. Let time elapse and then you need to take a call. It is obvious that as your girl and pal can't stand each other, it won't be easy for you. If you truly love the girl and so does she, then you need to talk to her. Explain to her your situation. Also, remember it is because of your friend that you got to know the girl, so you owe it to her. If she loves you, she will relent. So let some time elapse before you decide your next step.