I found out he was cheating and he broke up with me!

We've been together eight months. But he is very possessive and doesn't like me talking to other guys.

I found out he was cheating and he broke up with me!

Illustration/ Sameer Pawar

Dear Diana,
We've been together eight months. But he is very possessive and doesn't like me talking to other guys. Last month, he moved to another city though I wasn't comfortable with the idea but adjusted as he promised that it wouldn't affect our relationship. While he was gone, I came to know that he was seeing another gal the same time as me. He had introduced her as his friend. I had a word with her and she confirmed it. He denied it all and said he needed some time to clear things up. He then proceeded to break up with me and said that it was not possible for him to continue the relationship as we're miles apart anyway. I tried to sort out things but he won't listenu00a0 and won't answer my calls. I am totally shattered. I don't want to lose him!

XYZ

Dear Friend,
Losing him could be the best thing that happened to you. He was "possessive" of you in that you couldn't talk to other guys? But it's okay for him to have another girlfriend while he was with you. Where's the fairness in that. he's selfish and nothing more. He may deny it all he wants, but from what you found out, he sounds guilty as sin. Dumping you is only a way to save face for him, Why do you even want to be with such a loser? Think of him as a bad dream. Grow wiser from this experience.

Will I ever find love?

Dear Diana,
When will I find love? Who will love me? I have been searching for boys but no-one comes to me. By the way, I study in Standard 8. Any solutions?

Rene

Dear Rene,
That probably means you're around 12-14 years old. It's way too early to worry about "finding" love. Be confident about yourself, love yourself and automatically others will be attracted to you. Don't worry too much about it just as yet, despite peer pressure.

I'm 13 and confused...

Dear Diana,
I'm 13 and am frankly, quite confused. There's this boy I'm quite close to, and he wants me to do some "stuff" with him. But he said to me that he isn't sure that there'll be any feelings involved and now I'm not sure what to do. I want to do it, but I just don't want to be used. Guys keep messing around with girls' feelings and if I am understanding this correctly, it makes me really confused and really angry. I just want someone to love me for who I am. The only boy I really like has moved away and I still like him. What do I do?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
If you "do stuff" and get found out (which you will, in due course), it will cause you much trauma and yeah, "mess you around". Feelings might not be involved as far as he's concerned, but where does that leave you? Exactly where you don't wanna be. Feeling used. As a thumb rule, don't do anything you'll regret later. We all do foolish things when we're young and get wiser because of it. You don't have to make the same mistakes. Just say no if if you don't want to go through with it. I'd say you're too young and that it's against the law anyway ( and that is the truth) but under enough pressure, you'd buckle anyway. So I'm telling you this. Grow older without regrets. You'll be happier for it!