I have a crush on him but he loves my best friend

Dear Diana,
I have this huge crush on this lovely, sweet, cute guy, but he has no idea of my existence because he's in love with my friend. He has very publicly fancied her for the last three years, but she's not interested in anything other than being friends with him. Obviously, it's quite upsetting for me and I don't really know what to do. Is there any point in me trying to pursue this? If so, how?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
Go out with someone else. Unavailability usually triggers the response you're looking from this guy. You know how people always crave what they can't have? He's played that game long enough. It's time you did and saw if he bit the bait. If not, you'll have got your answer. No point getting upset over this guy if he can't be bothered with acknowledging you. Just saying...

Man of my dreams isn't so... physically

Dear Diana,
I'm being shallow about the man of my dreams. He's everything I could ask for! He just isn't all I would like physically.

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
You are definitely not being shallow, you're being honest. It helps that you are aware of the shortcomings of your guy. If you can love him despite that, fine. If not, don't lead him on.

Husband's best friend in love with me

Dear Diana,
I have been married seven years! We have the same friends. Last weekend, we went to a party with our friends, after the party we got home. At about 1am, I got a text from my husband's friend. It read, "I need to talk to u". He's getting a divorce. I thought that's what he wanted to talk about. I called him. To my surprise, he told me he was in love with me. I was shocked. He is my husband's childhood friend. He told me he's been in love since he met me. I don't know what to do! If I tell my husband, it will break his heart! Should I tell my husband? What's worse, the guy will be my son's godfather in July.

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
Your husband needs to know. Your silence in the matter only spells compliance with the situation. Also, he's going to be something like family. How your husband deals with the information is his concern. The friend cannot go behind your husband's back and tell you this. Besides, if you love your husband, the choice is apparent. What you do have to understand, though, is that this guy is going through a divorce and might notch it up to that. You have to tell your husband to deal with it, tactfully because this matter will spring up in conversation sooner rather than later.