25 August,2011 09:29 AM IST | | Diana
Dear Diana,
I am 19 and like this guy who is in his late 20s. He stays in my neighbourhood and I see him almost everyday, either in his building compound or on the road or at the provision store nearby. This guy, however, doesn't know me. I'm really hung up on him. I am besotted with him. I think about him all the time and fantasise that he is with me. What do I do? My friends laugh at my predicament.
-u00a0JY
Illustration/Satish Acharya
Dear JY,
At your age, a lot of girls get infatuated with a guy. As you see him everyday around you, you are assuming that he is your man. While you are weaving a world with him, he is clueless about your existence. One way of knowing him is through neighbours who know him. Or you could strike a conversation at the store he frequents. If you are desperate to know him, just casually strike a conversation and see how it goes. Next time at least he should smile at you. When you get to know him, however, your perception might change about him. At the moment it isu00a0 only love from afar so you cannot gauge what kind of a man he is and whether he is suitable for you. So get to know him first.
This girl is really odd
Dear Diana,
In my tuition class, there is this girl who everyone teases me with. I can't stand the sight of her. I find her an oddball and she has some peculiar mannerisms. I don't react to what the other students say but I want to tell her to back off and not hang around me. How do I do it?
-u00a0TR
Dear TR,
You have not been reacting to what the other students have been saying. So they assume that there is something going on between you two. You know the girl so you can gently tell her that at this moment it is better for you (and her) to concentrate on studies. And all this kind of talk will unnecessarily create problems for both of you.
Our cousin is proving to be irritating
Dear Diana,
A year ago my cousin began staying with us. He felt Mumbai offered him better opportunities than Ranchi where his parents are based. But he has been a cause of nuisance to me and my younger sister. We are 14 and 17. He is 26. We have started feeling very uncomfortable having him around us at home. He is so loud and brash. He is my father's brother's son. We don't want to offend any of the family members. How do we tell him not to be a pain in our lives. Our mother says she can't tell him as then his parents will get upset.
-u00a0Harried sisters
Dear Harried Sisters,
Both of you need to speak to your father. Explain to him your predicament. As he is not at home the entire day, he may be unaware of what is going on. Tell your dad to speak to him and explain to him the situation. As it is a family member, things have to be done with tact, in order not to offend anyone. It will take him a while to settle down in Mumbai and find a place of his own, so meanwhile both of you need to be patient.
