I want to get married but my boyfriend isn't...

I'm in my 20s and my boyfriend is in his 30s. He's very loyal to his family and that's also the reason why he can't muster courage to marry me

Dear Diana,
I'm in my 20s and my boyfriend is in his 30s. He's very loyal to his family and that's also the reason why he can't muster courage to marry me. We belong to different communities and our folks won't approve of our relationship. There's no doubt that he loves me but I'm adamant on tying the knot whereas he seems reluctant to go against his folks. I'm even ready to give up my family for him but he won't do the same as he's not sure whether that would be a good idea. I just want to leave this city with him, if need be, and start our life together all over again. At the same time, I don't wish to sound too demanding or take a remorseful decisionu00a0
- Urmi


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Dear Urmi,
You seem to be more determined and rather keen to take the plunge than him. Your guy has a wavering mind and has yet to take a decision. As he will not let go off his folks for you, it is highly unlikely that he will say yes to you. There is no point in forcing him to marry you. The future of such a marriage is often uncertain and leads to problems. I think you should give him some more time. After all, he's not asking you to leave him or anything. He's pretty faithful so just be more patient and allow him (and his connectivity with his family) some space. In the end, he'll have to make a choice, if it comes to that, and if it happens, he'll definitely go with you. Stay calm and keep talking with him to get a better perspective of his domestic situation.

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