Is it plain friendship or something more?

Dear Diana,
I have absolutely no idea what to think about this guy. He is the co-owner of a restaurant next to my work, where I eat at. He is sweet and friendly, but quiet. (Not shy, just... doesn't say that much, he's still confident, though). He doesn't usually talk to customers or co-workers but he sometimes smiles and makes little comments to me that don't really mean anything.

Like when I walked over without my coat in freezing weather he asked if I was cold. I thought he was being friendlier to me than his other customers since I'm a regular. However, when the co-owner is there, he avoids eye contact, and hardly says anything, etc.

Isn't it kind of strange to change your behavior for no obvious reason? I know that sometimes I can be a little bit confident and next day be afraid of showing how I feel like I made a fool of myself, which causes me to unintentionally ignore someone I like, when in reality all I want to do is talk to them. Is this the same?

Name withheld on request

Dear Friend,
I think you are way over analysing this. He probably does not put nearly as much thought into his behavior towards you as you do. It is just good business to be friendly to the customers and if you have a regular, you are going to be that much more attentive because you have gotten to know them. However, he is a human being and he may be preoccupied with other things on some days when you come in.

It seems you like him and hope that his interest is of the romantic kind. If it were, I think he would have let you know by now. But some guys take one step forward, like be your friend here, nice, talkative and charming; then take step back to see how the girl will react and if she will make an effort to start a conversation.

You need to be confident and ask him what's up? If he hasn't asked you to see him outside the bistro, he probably doesn't like you that much. Or he would've asked for your number and texted you at least once. Stop going there for a while and see if he tries to contact you.

Loves me, loves me not

Dear Diana,
I am a 20-year-old-girl and I've been seeing this guy for three months. We had sex twice. But since we last had sex, he's been acting distant. But when I see him once a week, he's all over me. His parents don't approve of me. Does he really love me? Or is he taking me for a fool?

Priyanka

Dear Priyanka,
I hate to be so harsh, but the boy is losing interest in you because he got what he wanted to try on with you....and he is most likely losing respect as well. Also his parents know he is having sex with you, and don'tu00a0 approve of that. If he loved you, he would be happy just to be in your company a lot, without the sex. In the future don't have sex with a guy for a long time, until you know that he wants you. I hope that you are using protection and are on the birth control pill or the patch or something like that as you don't want an unwanted pregnancy on your hands at your age.

Am I just a timepass for him?

Dear Diana,
I am a 35-year-old divorcee. I've been with this married guy with a 14-year-oldu00a0 son. He doesn't doesn't like me around other guys or even talking to them. I want to know if he has feelings for me or am I just someone who occupies his time. He says he has not been sleeping with his wife, and that they sleep in seperate rooms. That she works all the time, and is not interested in him. I don't know if I should be with this guy, or not.

Name withheld on request

Dear Friend,
You're someone who occupies his time. Don't fall for that "I have a wife but we don't have sex."u00a0 About 9,999 times out of 10,000 that's a lie. If he was seriously interested in you after five years you would be exclusively together. You're not. That tells you all you need to know right there. The jealousy is just his way of making sure no one gets in the way when he wants to have you. Can't have anyone else keeping his side piece away from him! Forget him and find someone who wants to be with you and only you.