12 October,2009 11:38 AM IST | | MiDDAY
Ever chatted to your married pals and felt, well a world away? Well, don't worry, you're not alone.
According to a recent survey of 3,000 Brits, attitudes on the key to happy marriage are completely different - depending on whether you've got a ring or not, reports The Sun.
Participants surveyed on a variety of issues showed stark differences in response to questions about marriage single people and married - showing that those who remain single have a different view to marriage than those who are married on what is important, as reported in The Sun.
Shared values, priorities and compromise were all rated highly for married folk, but were much further down the priorities list for singles.
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And single people also rated physical attraction and independence as more important than married people, says Theu00a0Sun.
So does partnership really change everyone's views on what makes a happy marriage, or do some of us struggle to change from our single state of mind?
"It is most likely that this has to do with experience, rather than a certain type of disposition," explains relationship guru Dr Gonzaga.
"Before people are married they do not have an experience with what makes a marriage work. As we gain experience we change the way we think.
"If people have marriages that are unsatisfying and conflict ridden they have more trouble learning what makes a relationship successful.
"It can make the relationship harder because people do not learn to use the important aspects of a successful relationship (compromise, shared values and interests).
"It can also lead them to look for the wrong things in future relationships because they haven't learned what is important to find in a partner when looking for a new relationship.
(With inputs from The Sun)