My breath sinks bad! will she marry me?

I am a 28-year-old guy due to get married in a month's time

Dear Diana,

I am a 28-year-old guy due to get married in a month's time. I got engaged two months back and have been in touch with my fiancu00e9e since then. Apart from the performance anxiety associated with the wedding night, I have another issue to deal with.

I suffer from bad breath as I did not take care of my oral health in my childhood. Getting professional cleaning done, using mouth wash regularly etc can only minimized the problem, but not completely eradicate it.

I am crestfallen as both of us have great expectations from our initial days of marriage and do not want to ruin the fun because of thisu2026 How should I deal with this issue? Should I tell my fiancu00e9e about this in advance? How will she take it? I know people in general, and women in particular abhor stinking creatures. Should I avoid kissing her or going close to her? Please help... as I do not want this problem to ruin our wedding night and marital life.

SMR

Dear Friend,

Don't simply talk about getting a complete dental clean-up. Do it! Then continue scheduling appointments with a dentist you trust. You might not be able to completely get rid of the bad breath. But at least, you can keep it in check? Ask your dentist if it's possible to get rid of the bad breath completely, through regular treatments. It's worth a shot. Meanwhile, I think it would be best to mask the odour by eating or inhaling mouth fresheners at regular intervals when you're close to her.

If you think this may lead to an argument later, make a clean breast of it now. If she marries you regardless, you know it's for keeps. And stop making general assumptions about women. And don't worry so much. It's going to be all fine.



She might miss her period. Am scared

Dear Diana,

My girlfriend and I indulged in foreplay six days back (with our pants on). There was no ejaculation. Her periods had to come today.... she feels it coming on but they have not started. I'm scared! What do you think could be the problem?

Rahul

Dear Rahul,

If there was no ejaculation, you needn't be worried at all. And even if you did, your semen (and thereby, your sperm) would have to find a way to her vagina through several sets of clothes. Her period may be a bit off-schedule. I don't think you ought to worry much.

Why would he tell me such things?

Dear Diana,

I am 45 and a married housewife with two adult children. I recently made a male friend who also guides me. I hold him in high regard. He talks to me about his sex life with his wife and also tells me that he is not sexually attracted to his wife and that he watches porn and masturbates. I don't understand that why he would tell me that. Should I continue to be friends with him or meet him again? I am confused.u00a0
Kailash

Dear Friend,

He's throwing several broad hints your way and he sounds a bit desperate. Or it could simply be that he needs a listening ear and has no-one to talk to. However, in your case, I think it's the former. He isn't sexually satisfied within the confines of his marriage and is throwing the bait to see if you're interested. Ask him clearly why he's telling you all these things. If he brings up a sexual affair, tell him it just isn't possible (unless you want to, of course). If you aren't comfortable around him anymore after that, just don't meet him anymore.