My ex-fiance wants....... me back in his life

Dear Diana,
I was engaged to a guy of my family's choice last September. A month ago, it was called off. Some of my family members had differences with his folks. As it led to several issues, it was best to call it quits. But the guy refuses to give up on me! He keeps on calling and SMSing me. I have not told anyone about it for sheer fear. Nor has he. He tells me he likes me and no matter what we should marry. How do I tell my elders about it. My parents and other familyfolk have already started finding another groom for me!
--u00a0Neha

Dear Neha,
You find yourself in a sticky situation indeed. Hiding the truth from your folks is going to be disastrous. You should inform your folks at the earliest. First, ask yourself whether you are interested in the relationship. Once sure, tell him to speak to his family first. Check how they react, only then tell your folks. Both the families have had differences so getting them to sit across the table will be a mighty task. Speak to a family member who you are comfortable with, share your anxieties and may be that relative can strike a conversation with the rest of the family. If both sides patch up it will be great and things will be easy for you. But if they don't and if you still want to be with the guy, he will have to strike a conversation with both the families and bridge the gap. Getting married at the cost of family ire is a tough call. Think hard before you take take the plunge.

He was my special guy!

Dear Diana,
When I was young, I always had this dream that someone would be crazy about me. I found such a guy at my workplace but very late in life ufffd after my marriage! He was also married. Yet we bonded and had a great time for a year, till he decided to walk away. I cried myself silly but there was nothing I could do to hold him back. Now there is no communication between us. Though we have gone our separate ways, he will always remain that special guy for me! Have I done something wrong?
--u00a0TR

Dear TR,
Every girl has this dream about her Prince Charming. But reality is different. That you found someone is great but it happened too late in your life as you honestly admit. Platonic friendship is one thing, but when you go beyond it, especially since you are married, then you are playing with fire ufffdu00a0 an extra-marital affair! Wiser sense prevailed on the guy that he decided to call it quits. It was difficult for you but over time you will forget. I am glad it was over before you got yourself into major trouble. What if someone had found out? It is in your best interests to forget him and live your life. Remember some things make for great reading in books, but in real life spell disaster.

My sister gets away with anything

Dear Diana,
I am 20 years old and my sister in 16. She can get away with anything while I am supposed to be the caring, giving types being the big sister. I am fed up of her tantrums and how she gets away with anything. My parents don't tell her anything as she is pampered. How do I tell my parents, "Hello what about me for a change"?
--u00a0Vyji

Dear Vyji,
You need to talk to your parents. May be they don't realise it as you are the caring, sharing types. They feel it is part of your nature while the younger one is a brat. I am sure they will understand; they don't have anything against you. Why don't you stop being so concerned about your sister's things, she will realise what it is do things herself. It will knock sense in her mind and make her realise your worth.