My girlfriend finds me annoying

Dear Diana,
I am currently in the throes of my first love. I wait for the time to spend with my woman. But she tells me I am obsessed with her which she finds annoying. And that there is also a life beyond her! I find this strange as I constantly want to be with her and hold her in my arms. I know that she was in a relationship earlier but it did not work out. I am going all the way to make her happy and fulfill her every wish. But when she tells me such stupid things about my over obsessiveness, I feel she does not love me. Why does she tell me all this?
- TP


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Dear TP,
You love her alright but why are you being so desperate about her? You know she is with you, so why worry about anything? You have landed yourself in such a situation. It's like you still don't believe that she is with you. Why are you making yourself so terribly unhappy? The reason why your girl is saying not to get over obsessive is because of your behaviour. You seem to be going overboard that is why she is stopping you in the tracks. It appears that your woman is an extremely practical, level-headed girl while you are just the opposite. She has been in a relationship earlier -- that makes her more mature. As she is your first love, you don't want to lose her. By being extra cautious, you are obsessing about her which she finds annoying.

How do I balance work and studies?

Dear Diana,
I work in a bank and in the evenings I attend a management course. I am not exactly enjoying the course as I find it too hectic. I still have a year to complete it. I leave home at 8 am and get back only at 10 pm. I have no time for anything else.
I am so confused what I should do.
- Vaibhav

Dear Vaibhav,
If you want to gain something, you have to be prepared to lose something for the time being. You just have a year to go, so don't lose heart so easily. I know it is tough and exhausting but a management degree will go a long way in shaping your career. When you are free on weekends, plan your time to make the most of it.

I love him... how do I tell him?

Dear Diana,
I really like this guy I met at a friend's party. But I don't know how he feels or how to make the first move. I wish he would ask me out. I am desperate to know him. I feel so comfortable around him. Of late, he has been talking about me to his pals too. Is he interested in me? How do I tell him I love him?
- Tameera

Dear Tameera,
It all depends what he is telling his friends. I assume these are his close pals whom you, too, know. If it is so, then he is sending a signal to them to get to know you. This makes your task easy. But be patient my girl and go slow. Get one of these friends to make you know the guy. Initially all of you can hang out together in a group during which you can gauge whether he is interested in you. And then befriend him. See how comfortable you are with him and then think of him as a boyfriend.