My guy refuses to wear a condom!

What I don't like about him is his refusal to wear a condom. He feels that "it kills the joy" whereas I don't fully agree with his philosophy! I've tried telling him that I don't like going on anti-conception pills. I even believe that their consumption has an adverse effect on health. But he thinks that I'm making up stories just to make him wear rubber! What should I do to make him see things my way and not be such a pig-headed person that he isn't when out of bed?
- Krithika

Illustration/ Satish Acharya

Dear Krithika,
Refuse to have sex with him to knock sense in his head. Ask him if getting pregnant is okay? He needs to understand the gravity of the situation. He needs to wear condoms, no matter if you are on the pill or not. It's just basic consideration on his part, and if it doesn't feel as good with the rubber, stand your ground. If he's not willing to put your health and well-being first by wearing a condom, find a guy that will.