My hubby and I keep arguing

Dear Diana,
We have been married for six years but we just can't get along. We keep on having arguments over everything and anything as we can never agree on the same things. And as usual my hubby always has an excuse for everything. He's too comfortable with me and has taken me for granted. He thinks he can say anything he wants to me and get away with it. He loves to be the boss. I feel so trapped and depressed. I wish he was a little more mature so that he could talk to me and understand that we have problems that he should not just dismiss all the time. How do I make him see sense? We have a three-year-old daughter and I don't want her to be caught in all this. At the same time I don't want to leave him as I can't think of a life without him.
- Ruhana N


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Dear Ruhana N,
You have allowed yourself to remain in an inferior position and that is why he is taking undue advantage of you. How about asserting yourself for a change. I know for sure it will be difficult for you as you have never done it all these years. You remained a doormat and he loved to trample over you. But what is needed is change and only you can bring it gradually. Start by sharing duties and responsibilities. He will be taken aback but over time become used to it. Also, sit down and have a frank conversation with him. Tell him how you feel and the situation needs to change which will go a long way in maintaining a harmonious relationship.