My hubby is addicted to on-line sex chats

Dear Diana,
While clearing the desk, by chance I happened to see my husband's email. I saw a semi-nude picture of a woman. I also found an email from him to one woman discussing about her assets. I am shocked to know that my hubby is addicted to sex chats on-line! He has been exchanging emails with some of these women, too, who have been sending scantily-clad snapshots of themselves. About three years ago, he started getting friendly with an office colleague. But it was nipped in the bud when he was pulled up by his boss as he was spending more time with her than in office!u00a0 Does he not realise how all this is affecting me and our marriage? I do love him but I can't live like this anymore. When I asked him he said he was addicted to it as it was a guy thing and all men indulge in it!u00a0
- AN


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Dear AN,
It is a guy thing alright but your husband should well be aware when he is overdoing it. Ask him if you did something similar, how would he react? You say earlier too, he was almost involved with an office colleague but it got nipped in the bud. Your man seems to have a problem. If he has sexual desires that he talks about with women online, then ask him to tell you what those are. You can also ask what prompted him to find sexual satisfaction online. At the same time evaluate yourself as well: Have you been shutting him out sexually? If your marriage has to survive, you'll have to be honest with each other. Your husband appears to beu00a0 sexually dissatisfied. Talk about what sexual fulfillment means to him.

I am scared to relocate

Dear Diana,
I am about to get married to a guy in Indore. Everything is going fine but as D-Day draws near, I am scared of relocating. I have lived in Mumbai all my life and wonder what I will do there! This is giving me sleepless nights!
-u00a0Nayna

Dear Nayna,
Your fears are groundless. Why are you stressing about it now? You agreed to the marriage proposal and knew that you would have to relocate. Look forward to your big day and once in Indore, explore the opportunities available. I am sure you will find something to keep you gainfully employed.

My guy's ex still pines for him

Dear Diana,
I recently met a guy who I have been hanging out for the last few weeks. We both are working and extremely busy but always find time for each other. He has confessed that there was another woman in his life with whom he broke off. But the woman still pines for him. He keeps on reminding me about it. Do I work through all these issues, or get away to avoid having my heart broken?
-u00a0RP

Dear RP,
You need to get away. If the guy has broken off with his girlfriend, why is he telling you that she pines for him and that too repeatedly? It was okay to tell you thatu00a0 he was in a relationship earlier ufffd that's being honest. But by reminding you about his ex, he is sending a clear signal that he is unsure about you. The faster you move away, the better for you. You have to tell him that he needs to clear his mind first before getting into another relationship.