One abortion later, he is yet to tell me he loves me...

Dear Diana,
I am 22. I was in love with a Hindu guy. My parents knew about it. His parents were not ready to accept me because I am not a Hindu andu00a0 so we broke up, over a year ago. Three months later, I met a 33-year-old Gujarati guy. He proposed to me but I neither said yes nor no. I used to meet him everyday and things were going normal.

Then I got a job and so we started meeting once or twice a week. Then last August I finally asked him why he was with me. "Are you serious or is it just timepass or sexual satisfaction?" He did not reply, though I kept asking him for the next three month.

Then I got pregnant. He didn't care about the pregnancy, or the abortion I did. Frustrated, I called him drunk, yelled at him and asked him the same question. He asked he's taking itu00a0 one day at a time.u00a0 He said due to my attitude he doesn't want any relationship with me.

I apologised several times and finally he agreed to continue, but he has not met me after that day. We talk on the phone everyday. Yet, I get the vibe that he no longer cares for me and talks just for the heck of it. I don't know whether he still feels for me or is with me for the heck of it. Should I split ways with him or sit calm and watch what he does? Will this relationship work?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
This relationship is only in your head. It's obvious that this man doesn't care for you. If he did, he wouldn't have let you abort teh baby. Or at least would've been concerned about you. By your admission, he is with you because you pleaded with him, and "apologised (for what??) several times."

He doesn't even meet you anymore. He only talks to you, and even that seems forced. Do you really want a guy speaking to you, only because he doesnt know how to break it off? He's clearly not interested in you anymore. Just walk out with your dignity. Tell him that it isn't working out anymore, and that it's best that you dont see each other.u00a0u00a0

Suhaagan, souten saath-saath?

Dear Diana,
I had a love marriage with this guy 2.5 years ago. He keeps telling me that he will marry another girl and that we should both live together like women did in the older times. I used to think he was teasing me.

But recently he finished shooting for this movie (he is an actor and has just got his first lead role) and all he does is speak about that girl, although she is fat and not so good looking. He says he will marry her and both of us should stay together. How do I know if he is serious or just bluffing? I am depressed. What do I do?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
The next time he tells you that, tell him that you don't find it funny. And make it very clear that you are not going to put up with this kind of talk. He should know that you will not live with another woman under the same roof, and that you will drag him to court and fight him with everything you've got.

If he still doesn't stop, do the same to him. Tell him that you too like a guy and that he too should come and live with you both. Don't get depressed. Just don't take crap from anyone, even if it is the man you are married to. And know that if life, shit happens. It's upto you to make the best of it. be strong. Be a fighter and a survivor. You have to fend for yourself. Don't depend on anyone else for your happiness