Online ex is sending my husband abusive texts

Dear Diana,
My ex-boyfriend is sending my husband abusive messages over the phone. My ex and I had a relationship over the phone and we have met only twice but I've told him everything there is to know about me. This has come back to bite me and he's leaving no stone unturned to spoil my life.

I have to pretend that I don't know who the sender of the texts is.u00a0 I cannot tell my husband about my past. My husband trusts me but my ex tells him stuff that is causing him to be suspicious. Should I inform the cyber-crime cell call, tell my ex to back off or ask my parents for help?

LD

Dear Friend,
If you cannot trust your husband with your past, it will only be a matter of time before the lies and the secrets will out and destroys your marriage. If the messages are sent to your husband's phone, it's his problem. Let him deal with it and his own suspicions. Calling your ex up telling him to back off is only going to insinuate that you are guilty of something.

You could call the cops on your ex, but there is no guarantee that this would be kept a secret from your husband. If the problem does continue, all your husband has to do is call up the guy and give him a piece of his mind. So the best thing to do would be to wait it out and see how it goes.

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Dear Diana,
My sister is always teasing me about not having a boyfriend. I'm 27, she's 17 and already has one. This has got me thinking: Will I ever find someone or be alone forever?

Harini

Dear Harini,
You will find someone in good time. Of course, you will have to make the effort to be a bit more social and put yourself out there. If you don't go out and meet people, you will never meet that special someone.

Have a crush on my sis-in-law

Dear Diana,
I have a huge crush on my sister-in-law.u00a0 She is eight years older than I am while my brother is ten years older than I am.u00a0 We live in a joint family and it is hard work trying to keep my emotions for her in check.u00a0 My family is not big on expressing joy or excitement when the family is around. When someone in the house does, it is done with a quiet smile and nod. Anything more is met with a reprimand or a cold stare. I don't know how to express my feelings to my sis-in-law.

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
You really don't want to tell your sister-in-law anything unless you're sure of how she's going to react. She's your brother's wife and things might get complicated (maybe ugly) should she take offence. It isn't just your family who you should be worried about. It's equally dangerous should they take it out on her. You don't want that. Should you express your feelings, it might take a load off your chest but it might create trouble for your sister-in-law for no fault of hers. Also, I feel this is just a phase. You'll grow out of it. Give it time.