18 November,2010 08:08 AM IST | | Diana
Dear Diana,
For the past four years, I have been in love with his girl. We were both in the same residential school. She is now in Std XI and I am in my second year of engineering. I have still been unable to propose to her. I wonder that now we are not in the same school anymore, if she will forget me.
I fear that I may lose her. I have her contact number, but it is a phone mainly used by her father. He is a goon and I think if he realises I like her, he might create a huge ruckus. I am not afraid of him, but I fear how he can impact my career. I am good-naturedu00a0 and a very good speaker and the school liked me for it.
Milind
Dear Milind,
No, you cannot propose to a girl who doesn't know you. She knows of you. That is different. No girl is going to say yes to a guy she doesn't know. First thing you have to do is find out if she is single, and then get introduced to her by a common friend.
Once you've met her, ask her for her cell number and give her yours. Call her after a few days, or send her a message about something random like, "Seeing a film, the leading lady has the same name as you, so thought of you... how are you doing." If she replies, then you can take it from there. If she seems friendly, then ask if she has a chat ID, and start talking to her. Find out about her interests.
Tell her yours and find out if you two are compatible. You can worry about her father later. Just remember that you can fall in love with a girl from across the room but once you meet her, you might discover she is nothing like you've imagined.
He says he can't pay attention to me
Dear Diana,
I've asked my boyfriend to be nicer, loving and pay more attention to me. He says he can't. I've decided not to see him till he changes. But he doesn't seem to care. He gets mad when I cry. Help!
Kaveri
Dear Kaveri,
You can't ask a boy to change. Some boys just aren't romantic. You sound like you're having a tantrum and he doesn't want to waste his time with your crying and whining. If you're unhappy, end the relationship and find someone who does what you need.
He is likening me to a little boy!
Dear Diana,
I am a 29-year-old girl and I have been with this guy I love for the last three years. I thought our relationship was okay. Then last week, out of the blue he said that when he makes love to me, it was like doing it with a little boy. He won't explain what he means, but I think he is talking about my bust size. I'm not sure if I will get over this!
Name withheld on request
Dear Friend,
Your response to him should have been, 'Funny you say that. I was thinking the same thing about you.' When you are feeling calm, insist that he explains his remark so you can better understand what he means. I expect he had one of those 'open mouth, insert foot' moments.
And he's scared to expand on the comment because he has seen it has upset you and he doesn't want to make things worse. But try talking to him about it.
If he really doesn't enjoy love making, (which is what I am assuming, if he likens it to being with a boy), then it's a matter that needs discussion or you will reach a stage where you don't want to make love anymore and things will get difficult. He might not have meant your bust. It could be you like to wear your hair very short. Or you are very slim and he likes more curves.
