11 February,2010 08:29 AM IST | | Diana
Dear Diana,
I'm 26 and she is 24. I've been in love with her for three years now. We love each other very much. I know she is loyal tou00a0 me. We have had sex often. I'm very emotional attached to her.
But the problem is that gives me the time of day when she has nothing exciting in her life but when she has, she totally forgets me. And these things hurt me. I love her so much. I don't know how to handle these situations.
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
In three years, you haven't been able to keep her consistently coming back to you? It's one thing being in love and quite another showing it. Sex is a binding factor, though not always. However, if she relegates you to second best the first chance she gets, it's never a good sign.
Like they said in one movie: don't play a supporting role in your own love story. Tell her that all this has to stop if she wants to be with you. Of course, you'll come off looking possessive. And that, my friend, is a trait that could tilt the balance either way.
I cannot break up with him
Dear Diana,
I am in love with my best friend for a year now though we are totally opposite in nature. We don't share a proper understanding (especially me) and we fight a lot these days. I cannot break up with him. Please suggest another solution.
Janavi
Dear Janavi,
They say opposites attract. That should give you some respite. Sit down and sort out your differences and try to reach common ground. If you love her, you will try your best to. It is surprising though, that you're best friends with her!
He wants sex but I don't want another kid!
Dear Diana,
I am a 35-year-old woman. Twelve days back, I underwent an abortion without the consent of my in-laws. I did it because I already have two children and didn't want a third.
My husband will be coming down for the holidays next week. Is it safe to have sex while he's down? He is mad about sex. He also doesn't know about the abortion. What precautions can I take to avoid a pregancy? Is it safer to take contraceptives?
u00a0
Name withheld on request
Dear Friend,
Simple enough, you know when the "safe" time to have sex is, right. Schedule your sexual romps on those dates. If you want to be safer, tell your husband clearly that you don't want any more children and would appreciate it if he wore a condom.
Also, use contraceptives just as a precautionary measure and that too, after consultation with a doctor you trust.u00a0 Most contraceptive pills come with side-effects that you can do without. Speak to him and see how he takes the suggestion.
