04 May,2011 08:06 AM IST | | Diana
Dear Diana,
I've known my girlfriend for three years now. I met her parents two years ago to talk of marriage but her mother objected because I don't earn much. After a few months, my girlfriend started ignoring me, she stopped messaging and wouldn't receive my calls. I thought she was angry over something. One day, she told me her parents had chosen a guy for her to marry. I saw them every night, he'd drop her home. A few months ago, I learnt that this guy is married and has a five-year-old kid. She has told me that nobody in her family knows this. She has also told me she loves us both. She wants to marry me but I can't trust her despite her saying they never got physical. She says that in these two years, she hasn't even kissed him once. Should I trust her? Does she love me or am I simply another option to her. What should I do?
Dear Friend,
You've got to fill in the blanks here. There's obviously a lot you don't know and a lot more she isn't telling you. I do feel that she's treating you as an option and that it isn't fair to you. She can't love you both and marry you against her parents' wishes. If she has reconciled herself to the situation, it does seem weird that she would be going out with the guy her parents chose despite knowing he's married. He's offering her something you aren't and that's keeping her reeled in. Does she love you? Well, that's something you will have to figure out for yourself.u00a0
Never ever masturbated. Am I weird?
Dear Diana,
I am a 16-year-old girl and haven't ever masturbated... because I don't know how to. Does this mean I'm weird? Or am I normal?
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
You're totally normal, masturbation is a choice people either make or never consider. Not knowing how to do it doesn't make you weird. Look it up on the internet or read up, I'm sure you'll get several resources that tell you how to get off.
Wanna help my friend land girl of his dreams
Dear Diana,
My friend, Vijay, works as a real estate agent. He's 25, is in love with a girl from another caste. She's 23. They want to be married. Trouble is, the girl's brother is a criminal and won't listen to my friend. I feel Vijay might lose his mind... he's always so tense.... What can I do to help him? A few days ago, the girl's brother gave my friends a treat when he heard of their love story. Vijay has even moved house so he can be close to his ladylove. What should I do?
Shatru
Dear Friend,
He might well be in love with this girl, but having criminal elements in the family is bound to bite you sooner rather than later. I believe you should not get involved unless Vijay asks you expressly to support him. It's one thing to be worried about a friend, totally another thing to take on a criminal for his sake unless he asks you to.u00a0 It's clear that he's doing all he can to be able to spend as much time with this girl as he possibly can. Since he has a steady job, convincing her parents shouldn't be difficult. Getting his parents to agree? Well, that's going to take some work!
