She only calls me when she needs me, otherwise NOT!

She only calls me when she needs me, otherwise NOT!

Dear Diana,
We became good friends and shared good rapport. A few months on, she came to now that she was being cheated by her lover (they were together five years). She became upset and restless. She used to cry in office. She started drinking and smoking to reduce her set back. I helped her by giving her good advice. She felt completely ignored by her boyfriend. We started dating eachother after office. I sincerely tried to bring her out of her problems and troubles by motivating her. She landed a job in a good organisation and I also helped her monetarily. We're more than friends but less than a romantic couple. Her boyfriend returned into her life now and she hardly meets me. When she requires something she calls otherwise she hardly cares for me. I ignored her a number of times, but she remember me only if she needs me. Ideally, I'd like to marry her but hse isn't interested

Name withheld on request


Dear Friend,
You became her shoulder to cry on very readily. If you became the best friend rather than the buddy, that's a very dangerous place to be especially if the object of affection has begun to grow on you. She used you when she needed you and returned to her long-term option once it was made available to her again. Of course, it is her call who she wants to be with.

We fight a lot!

Dear Diana,
I've been living in with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. We met online. I proposed, he accepted. At first, we were very happy together. Also, despite staying together, we've never had sex.... we fight a lot there is not even a single day when we don't fight... He insults me in front of his friends. I've slapped him in front of everyone. But despite all that, we're inseparable.

ABC

Dear Friend,
So what's the problem then? Are the bruises and battle scars beginning to show? You fight with the ones you love but grow stronger after every reconciliation. Take a trial separation from him and see how it goes...

How do I make sure she's a virgin?

Dear Diana,
I am going to see a girl for marriage. How do I ascertain if a girl is a virgin or not. Is it advisable to ask her directly? Or else can one can go for a medical checkup? I am a good guy and deserve a good girl. So considering my future, what will help me to examine whether a girl is virgin or not?

XYZ

Dear Friend,
Nobody is going to readily tell you if they're a virgin or not. How would you feel if a girl asked you if you were a virgin or not? Confidentiality and privacy become touchy issues, should it transpire that the girl isn't a virgin. For most people, virginity means that the hymen has to be intact. Sometimes , the hymen is ruptured due to sport activities. So there is no foolproof way of saying if someone is a virgin or not. Besides maintaining one's virginity is a personal choice rather than a culturally motivated one. The moral of the story: virginity being a touchy issue, you will be laughed off or told to find another prospective bride if this 'only if-or else' nature persists. The vicious circle continues.