She wants sex but doesn't want me to use condom!

Dear Diana,
I am 23 and my girlfriend is 21. We have been in a relationship for three months now. We kiss a lot but when I try to have sex with her, she always refuses. It has happened so many times and finally, I asked her why not. She told me that she wants to have sex with me, even though her family would think it a bad thing, but is very scared of getting pregnant. At the same time, she doesn't want to use a condom either, as it is against her religion. Are there other ways of preventing a pregnancy?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
First of all, never pressure a girl to have sex with you. She may have her reasons and you will have to learn to respect them. Fear of unplanned pregnancy is a very valid reason to avoid the subject. In any case, her fears are not unfounded. Even after using contraceptives, there's no fool-proof guarantee she won't concieve. I find it absurd that she'd not want you to use a condom given that it's protection against unwanted STDs and unwanted pregnancies. Even if her religion forbids it, it's not like anyone would know. Visit a doctor to know alternate contraceptive methods.

She proposed... Accept?

Dear Diana,
I'm 17. Ten days ago, I saw a good-looking, good-natured girl. She has proposed to me. I'm confused. Should I say yes or no?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
Think about it this way. She has taken the initiative to tell you she likes you and likes being around you. Obviously she wants to be with you. I fail to see why you're confused at all. You like her, say yes.

Chat friend or husband?

Dear Diana,
I'm married and am in love with a chat friend younger to me. We are unable to live without each other. Please suggest a way out. Inform my husband or leave the friend? It indeed is difficult to leave those we love.

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
You've spent a considerable amount of time building up this marriage. Why would you want to throw it away for a guy I'm doubting you've even met? Don't be foolish. Informing your husband will only cause problems in your marriage where there needn't be any. You have to be completely sure you want to be with this chat friend.u00a0